So, you've found your ideal Wedding Invitations! Now what do you do?
There are most likely numerous questions you have in relation to how
many to order, addressing the invitations and who gets an invite.
Considering that the Wedding Invitations will set the tone for your
upcoming wedding, it is important to remember the recognized etiquette
of a wedding while ordering and mailing out your invitations.
- Who
gets an Invitation? Of course all your guests that you wish to invite
should get an invitation. In addition, your wedding party should also
get an invitation as well as clergy and parents. The wedding party
understands they are invited, but this gives you the opportunity to
formally invite a spouse or provide the option for a guest to attend
with a single attendant. This holds true for any clergy you wish to
invite.
- How
many invitations do I order? Once you have compiled your guest list,
it is always best to add on at least an additional 25 invitations. If
you have the option to just order additional envelopes, this is advised
as well just in case errors are made during the address writing. Having
additional wedding invitations on hand is ideal for keepsake purposes as well as return mailed and the last minute invites you may want to send.
- When are Send the Date Cards
mailed? Send the Date Cards can be mailed anywhere from six to nine
months before the wedding. These are still considered optional in terms
of etiquette, but about 90% of couples today are choosing to send them
in order to ensure family and friends across the country and world are
able to attend. If you are planning a destination wedding, these really
are a must as travel and hotels will need to be booked.
- When
are Wedding Invitations mailed? Traditionally, wedding invitations are
mailed six to eight weeks prior to the day. However, if you are having
a destination wedding, you may elect to send out the invitations eight
to ten weeks ahead in order to ensure that all accommodations can be
made by your guests.
- Do
I really need a Reception Card? A Reception Card isn't necessary, if
the reception is immediately following the ceremony and if it is at the
same location. A Reception Card is proper etiquette, if the reception
is at a different location. The Reception Card is also the appropriate
way to communicate what type of party you are hosting. For example, if
you are hosting an "Adult Only" reception, the card is the avenue to
communicate this important information. Directions should also be
provided or at least the address of the reception.
- Do
I really need a Respond Card? A Respond Card is the most traditional
way for your guests to acknowledge the invitation and advise as to
whether or not they will be attending. Although some couples are
electing to print a website on the invitation itself for guests to RSVP
online, this is not the proper way to solicit a response and it does
take away from the invitation which is typically a keepsake considering
the personalized verse and wedding details.
- How
do I provide the reception menu options? The Respond Card is the
perfect place to outline to your guests what meal choices they will have
at your reception. Selecting a meal is the indication they will be
attending. Another line is then provided below the meal options for
those who regretfully cannot attend.
- How
long should I give guests to RSVP? Your final number of guests is
typically due to your venue about one to two weeks prior to your
wedding. With this in mind, asking for the RSVP two to three weeks in
advance will provide ample time for you to evaluate who has responded,
call those who haven't and contact the venue with your final count. If
you are planning a destination wedding and accommodations are a factor,
asking for a response four weeks in advance is perfectly acceptable.
- Where
do I put my Return Address? Your return address should be printed in
two places. The first is on the back of the outer envelope. This will
ensure that any invitations that are not deliverable will be returned to
you. This can be printed by your invitation vendor. The second place
is on the front of the respond card envelope. This can also be printed
by your invitation vendor and is typically printed at no additional
charge. Be sure to place a postage stamp on the respond card envelope
as well.
- How
should the invitations be addressed? The outer envelope can be mailed
to a family just by indicating Mr. and Mrs. The outer envelope for a
single person can just be addressed to that person. The inner envelope
traditionally is the indication of who is actually being extended the
invitation. If you are hosting a family oriented wedding where kids can
attend the ceremony and reception, the invitation should be to the
adults and "family." If you are just inviting the adults of the
household, "family" should be left off. If you are inviting a single
person who can bring a guest, the invitation should indicate the
person's name and the word "guest." If you are just inviting the single
person, it should only state his or her name.
- Do the envelopes for the Wedding Invitations
need to be handwritten? The return addresses can be printed for the
invitations. However, everything else should be handwritten. This is,
after all, a personal and intimate invitation.